Today’s Wall Street Journal included an article about identity shift. The author’s main point is that you need at least two years to make a successful transition.
The article talked about stress associated with divorce and job loss, but relocation can be even more stressful. One difference is that you can’t say, “Let’s do nothing for a year!” You’re there.
I’ve made a short video you can watch now. And download the book — Making The Big Move: Transform Relocation Into A Creative Life Transition.
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Melissa Martin says
Tip #2: Finding a confidante is key, as in a coach or counsellor. I worked on two military bases and helped spouses and military members settle into their new communities, following the posting season. Having a confidante in place translates into immediate support. Typically, military families experience a relocation every three years…no easy feat! And on a personal note, when I was in radio broadcasting for 10 years, I moved 6 times!
Tip #3: Joining groups is useful too, in so far as cultivating a network and community supports.
Tip #5: journalling
Spouses are masters of scrapbooking to not only bond with other spouses, but to collect beloved souvenirs of the former hometown.
That’s what I heard and experienced before when you move to another country: give yourself 2 years to feel “at home”. Because only in the second year you recognize holidays, local festivities, seasonal weather patterns, etc. in the new place or country. These recurring patterns trigger the first memories of the new place and thus give you an “at home” feeling.