Recently I listened to a wonderful call from Christina Merkley, the Shift-It Coach. I highly recommend Christina if you are considering a life change and looking for support and direction. I consult her myself when I want a sounding board although I’m somewhat left-brained. I find many Law of Attraction principles can be explained by mainstream psychological concepts.
Christina has a Soothing Saturday series which I recommend. She has a guest who discusses techniques and ideas that may be helpful. Last week one caller shared this story. I don’t know the caller’s name so I’ll call her “Betty:”
“I used Law of Attraction to support a move from Colorado to California. I was totally convinced the move would happen. But my house didn’t sell and I couldn’t move. Things turned out badly after that.”
I’m no expert in Law of Attraction; in fact, I raise questions about it. But I *am* somewhat of an expert on moving. You can learn more from my book, which originally was published by New Harbinger.
And I hear an undercurrent of doubt. You don’t have to be locked in to a location because your house won’t sell. You may be able to rent for awhile. You may be able to lower the price.
When your move is contingent on selling a house, you are a prisoner to your home. That’s not a good place. These days people are more sensitive to the possibilities. With the recent economic downturn, I’ve seen many Seattle condos converting to rentals because people are terrified they’ll be stuck.
Suppose Betty were my client. From the first day she considered moving, I would say, “First set a goal of selling the house. Deal with the house and then deal with the rest of your move.” I’ve sold two houses very quickly as soon as I decided to move. The first time I didn’t even have a real estate agent – just a sign on the lawn. I ran into a neighbor looking to buy. The second time I wanted to rent my house. A buyer offered me a 25% premium over market value and I never looked back.
If your first step of a new venture is hard, stop and ask why. If you meet resistance, stop and think. A Law of Attraction expert might talk about energetic forces and who knows? Maybe they’re right. Anyway, it’s much more fun to talk about energy and attraction than cognitive psychology or economics.
For example, when I left New Mexico, I had two options. One offered resistance. The other was wide open. I considered moving to Philadelphia. Then someone suggested, “Why not Seattle?” I had trouble finding an apartment in Philadelphia that was dog-friendly. In Seattle I had choices. I ended up in Seattle in a great apartment, with (literally) a little help from my friends. (I keep thinking about buying a place, but I like living downtown and the condos are problematic.) Seattle is totally dog-friendly. They even allow dogs on buses. If my first dog had died a little earlier, or if I’d waited to move, I might have moved to Philadelphia with just two cats and who knows what might have happened?
