Question: “It’s only three months. Or six months. Or a year. How bad can it be?”
Answer: Truly, truly awful.You may need a temporary move because your career calls for a short-term assignment. You may be renting while you build your dream house. You may have relocated temporarily to help a close friend or family member.
Short-term moves can be more difficult – and can cost you more money – than a “permanent” move. Why? [Read more…] about Relocation Checklist: Top Tips For The Temporary Move
When you read about relocation, your find that moving tips tend to focus on the departure area. What should you pack? How do you start planning in advance – 6 months, 3 months, 6 weeks, 1 week … on to M-Day.
The truth is, relocation stress often starts after you’ve arrived. You just moved to a new city to take advantage of a career opportunity. Now, just a few months later, you’re writing home to say, “I made a BIG mistake.” [Read more…] about Moving Tips When Relocation Feels Like You’ve Made A Mistake
Relocation stress is extremely common. Moving is a challenging life transition and is one of the top stressors. Yet often it’s hard to find resources to deal with the transition, in direct contrast to other experiences like divorce or bereavement.
Scroll down to watch a video summarizing the 3 myths that make the situation even worse. [Read more…] about Moving Tips Video: 3 Relocation Myths That Will Cost You Money, TIme and Freedom
Today’s Wall Street Journal included an article about identity shift. The author’s main point is that you need at least two years to make a successful transition.
The article talked about stress associated with divorce and job loss, but relocation can be even more stressful. One difference is that you can’t say, “Let’s do nothing for a year!” You’re there.
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When you’re new in a community, it’s easy to experience intense relocation stress because you’re new. You don’t know many people and it’s hard to force yourself to get out and make friends. Here are some guidelines to help.
— Plan your first days, weeks and even months before you leave.
When you’re a newcomer it’s easy to stay home and pack just one more box or decorate another room. It’s even more tempting to stay home and watch just one more basketball game or episode of your favorite show. These activities are deadly for newcomers. Develop a plan for spending your time so you won’t end up miserable and isolated.
You will have gaps in your social calendar at first. Many of us don’t realize that we’ve got a standing dinner invitation with a particular friend or a weekly get-together to watch a football game. We notice the gaps when they are gone.
You will be alone more than before, especially if you are single. Even families report they spend more time together; one couple spoke sadly about being lonely as a “pack of two” during their first six months.
— Keep your work life separate from home.
When you’re new and you don’t know many people, it’s easy to share your feelings with your boss and coworkers. However, when you interact with someone from work, you are always “on.” They want to hear that you are enjoying your new home. They just want to hear the good stuff.
Besides, in a new city, you don’t know how relationships work. Your kind next-door-neighbor may be your boss’s wife’s cousin…or your best customer’s ex-wife. You have to be extremely careful when reaching out for friendship.
— Choose a confidante and sounding board BEFORE you move.
Plan for this separation by choosing a confidante before you move. If you are moving as a family you have a built-in, confidential system, but you can’t take them for granted. Almost inevitably, every family member experiences the move differently: some are ecstatic while others are miserable. Additionally, you can exhaust your family’s goodwill fairly quickly.
Ideally you will choose a close friend or even hire a coach who will be available by phone. If you talk to someone who knew you before you moved, you will get some perspective. They might say things like, “You always complained about the same thing here!” or, “You sound happier than I’ve ever heard you,” or even, “You better get out of there: you sound awful.”
Relocation can be stressful but many people look back on a relocation as the high point of their lives. Often just a small amount of planning can make a huge difference. My Report, Making The Big Move, is just about the only resource that deals with financial, personal and emotional baggage associated with relocation. You can download your copy here: http://www.RelocationStrategy.com